In turbulent times, we can always rely on the soothing effects of reality TV.
This newest season of Traitors has offered an incredible escape from the pressing issues of the year so far. Nonprofit professionals, in particular, may feel especially deserving of a break from reality, given the political climate that has impacted our sources of funding and shaken our confidence in the future of financial support. Our communities are affected, and there’s no denying the pressure we feel because of that. More than ever, we deserve the safe emotional experience of a reality show—one where the stakes, highs, and lows are all manufactured and heavily influenced by dramatic background music (dun dun dunnnnnn). More than that, we deserve a show where the drama is unexpectedly cut by the presence of someone like— and I never thought I’d say this—Tom Sandoval.
So what magical show could possibly fit this bill? Enter: the newest season of Traitors—a giant game of Werewolf set in Scotland, featuring reality TV stars from Survivor, Big Brother, Real Housewives, and more, all hosted by the marvelous Alan Cumming. While not all Traitors fans are Bravo fans, any Bravo TV watcher tuning in this season can’t deny the truth: Sandoval’s presence was undeniably entertaining and made the show even more fun to watch. That this can be said at all is kind of unbelievable, given his involvement in one of the biggest scandals in Bravo TV history (Scandoval, anyone?).
This is worth acknowledging—not because we need to defend Sandoval, but because it’s an opportunity to reflect on resilience. We all go through extremely tough times, and yet, we live to see another day. While nothing is guaranteed, we can recognize that if someone like Sandoval can survive Scandoval and eventually become one of the most enjoyable parts of this season of Traitors, then maybe anything is possible—including the survival and success of our nonprofits.
For those struggling with imposter syndrome, it might be hard to relate to Sandoval, a person who was publicly dragged for Scandoval and still had the audacity to sign himself up for another high-profile reality show. His choice to do so seems rooted in an almost irrational confidence—the belief that he deserves to be there, regardless of past mistakes. Nonprofit professionals, on the other hand, are steeped in a humble culture that can make us hesitant to take big risks. Newer nonprofits might feel existential insecurity when comparing themselves to tenured organizations that seem untouchable. But here’s where we could—and perhaps should—learn something from Sandoval: What if success is just on the other side of pursuing something without needing to believe we’ve earned it first? What if the very act of going for it is what makes us deserving, rather than some vague innate quality we ascribe to established nonprofits?
None of this is meant to downplay the real stakes we’re facing. These are tough times, and we shouldn’t fall into the trap of toxic positivity that forces us to pretend everything is fine. But we should remind ourselves that the nonprofit sector is scrappy, and we’ve survived difficult seasons before. That’s a fact, not just wishful thinking. And beyond acknowledging our history of resilience, we deserve to shape the reality we want to be part of—even if we don’t feel fully qualified to make it happen. Faith doesn’t have to come first; it often follows action. And just like in Traitors, you can only win if you play the game.